Today, Mr. Austin and I celebrate seven years of marriage as husband and wife! To God Be the Glory! I give God all the praise, honor and glory for bringing us this far. It is through Jesus Christ that we are still in this marriage.
October 10, 2009
This day, seven years ago, I became a wife to my best friend. We had a small, intimate wedding in our town square in which family and friends surrounded us on this memorable day. Little did I know, I had so much to learn about becoming one flesh. I had to learn to be the wife my beloved husband needed me to be. We both learned the true meaning love.
What Love Is
The world will have you believe that you can throw away your marriage and get a new one. The world will have you believe in the old cliche, ” you have fallen out of love with one another” this hurts my heart because I learned a few years back that love is not an emotion. Love is an action. Do you know what the biblical meaning of love is? Let’s take a look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
What marriage is
Marriage is not a contract but a covenant. In our society, this fact can be hard to digest! Believe me, I know. Throughout our engagement period and in the very beginning of our union, my husband and I professed that divorce was not an option. We were (and still are best friends). How could we break up? Nothing would tear us apart. Little did we know that an enemy was waiting for opportunities to bring dissension, confusion and mistrust in our marriage.
Not long after we became one flesh, divorce did become an option. Back then, I was a baby Christian, I had no clue what a godly marriage looked like. Where were my examples? Where were the older women teaching and instructing me to love and respect my husband? Titus 2:4-5 “These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.”
He and I were both products of divorce (I mean generational). Looking back on our family histories, we rarely saw marriages being fought for. There wasn’t a tangible picture he and I could look at as an example of what godly marriages looked like. We had more people in our corner of the ring rooting for the destruction of our marriage than salvaging what was being destroyed.
I felt there was no hope for our marriage
I filed for divorce not once, not twice but THREE times! Sad, I didn’t want to lose my husband but I felt I had no other choice. I looked at my husband as my adversary. He looked at me as his adversary. I didn’t look to the Lord. I didn’t seek out His will. I didn’t look for wise counsel.
I chose to listen to family and friends. I chose to be close to destroying our covenant marriage. How many times did you read the word “I”?
No matter what you are facing in your marriage, please believe in your heart that nothing is too hard for God. The keyword is nothing. He can restore your marriage. There are countless marriage testimonies of God’s redeeming power. Don’t give up, fight! I am writing you on the eve of our wedding anniversary and I am so thankful that we did not give in to the enemy. God is faithful in all things, even your marriage relationship. Trust Him. Place your hope in Him.
An invaluable resource that provides encouragement for marriage problems, separation and/or divorce can be found here: Rejoice Marriage Ministries